A great practice when I notice I am focusing on what is wrong

Life is always showing up with situations that can be stressful. I have begun to realize I have a choice about my reaction. So when I
find myself focusing on what is wrong or what I don’t like about a situation, I notice that I am playing in the energy of “don’t like this, this is bad,  I can’t get this done, this is never going to work”.  Then I say to myself what do I really want to be experiencing here?
I focus not so much on a particular outcome but rather what feelings would I like to have here. So for example yesterday when I was struggling with my project which seemed so hard, not working well.  I stoped tuned into my heart, took a few
breaths to connect to myself and asked “What do I really want to be experiencing right now?” I want to feel “I can and I know, all the answers are available.”  I remembered a time when I felt this way to help me access the feelings.  Within a few minutes I felt better. You know what, by the end of the day I got some great help with my project.

One of my teachers taught me that this works really well when someone does something to you which makes you upset. Instead of trying to be right (which you probably are).  First, notice the upset then ask or think of what feelings you would like to be experiencing and what feelings you would like the others in the situation to be experiencing. For example cooperation, friendliness, harmony, admiration. I play in those feelings rather than focusing on the person and how I want them to behave which feels like a pushing energy. Instead of finding fault with this person and finding ways to get back at them I shift into the energy of what I want to be experiencing. I step out of the blame cycle into a place of what I really want to be experiencing.  I feel better when I do this   This has been an amazing practice for me because wonderful things show up.